Top 5 Signs You're an Empath
For a long time, I've felt out of place. I could never understand why I was so "funny-acting" as others put it. I've always been very particular about the things I did and the people I kept as company. Before I found out who I was, I tried to blend with peers my age. I felt isolated and left out of the "norm". It didn't work and joining them never felt right, so I just gave into trying to join the norm and be me. Years ago, I accepted that I am very different from several groups of people. This acceptance has helped me start my journey of self-discovery.
What I’ve identified as a problem back then turned into a beautiful blessing. Today, I identify as an empath.
What is an Empath?
Empath (n)., a person with a paranormal ability to apprehend the mental and emotional state of another individual.
I feel everything. I love and hate it. I can literally feel when someone has negative, manipulative energy. I can also feel when someone is happy, sad, disappointed, hurt, and confused. At times, it's hard to distinguish what I am feeling and the emotions I am feeling from others.
I used to feel crazy for feeling what others felt. I was hesitant to describe it to friends and family because I didn't know what to call it. Moreover, I figured it would be a waste of time because they wouldn't understand.
During my journey of self-discovery, I've found others who experience the same thing online. I follow a great influencer who simplified everything I've felt since I was a kid. Turns out, all of these things I and other people experience embody the Empath. If you're experiencing these 5 things, chances are you're one of us:
You're highly sensitive
Empaths are highly sensitive because of their ability to connect emotionally and spiritually. Because we feel emotions like happiness, pain, stress, and anxiety of our own (and from others), we can also experience huge mood swings.
We are sensitive to the content we consume. This content can be the images we see or the movies we watch. For example, some of us can't watch movies that show a lot of violence, torture, cruelty, and oppression because we feel what the actors and actresses experience within their characters. If you've experienced this, chances are you're an empath.
On a personal note, this sucks! I've wondered why I’ve always hated scary movies and why I couldn't process excessive oppression and abuse when I was younger.
Who am I kidding? I am still this person today.
Anyway, seeing someone cry because of hurt and pain (and it's not warranted) literally brings me to tears. It took a few years for me to just completely shut out those types of films with the exception of suspense. Usually, I watch suspense because of a compromise I've made, but it still takes time to process these types of movies. Again, it really sucks!
It's one of the things I dislike about being an empath. I know that the people in movies are only actors. But, I can't shake the images since they replay over and over again in my head. They sneak into my dreams and become a part of my life when I am sleep. For those reasons, I do not watch any movies that have this in it. All in all, action and comedy is where I stay and live in the movie world.
Many empaths are introverted. Because they know their capabilities, they avoid huge crowds of people. Can you imagine all of the energies flowing through huge crowds of people and absorbing those vibes? It's tiring as hell.
I know a few extroverts who are also empaths. Fortunately, they've learned to block and manage their energy so well that they go out into the world and stay in their own world. On the other hand, there are others who just don't bother. I am one of them. I go out and have a good time as needed. I transform into an extrovert (so I've been told), enjoy myself and others but at the end of the day, I am so drained and need to recharge from being around so many people.
You're highly intuitive
Empaths have sharp and intense senses. We can predict many things based off of what our inner voice tells us or how we feel. The voice that tells us right from wrong or when something is off, even if we can't readily identify why or what that "something" is, is our intuition. It is the ability to sense without immediate reasoning. Personally, mine has never lead me astray even when I choose to ignore it. I am blessed to have it and now listen to it after falling on my face more times than I'd like to admit.
You're self-sufficient and a visionary
We are active truth seekers. We are interested in the spiritual rim and are often drawn to things that make us think and dissect the information we consume. Because we strive to seek the truth, our truth, we can do well at self-healing. We often know our triggers or the things/people that may hinder our healing.
We also need solitude and quiet space. We don't need to constantly be around people because we enjoy our own company. We understand that other people are a bonus to be around, and we carefully select those people. But, we don’t need to be around people all the time. There is a difference.
We are problem solvers which makes us creative, visionary leaders in roles that require our attention and talent. We thrive in small groups. Intellect attracts and maintains our attention.
You're an excellent listener
Empaths listen with feelings. How we feel about you, your body language, your tone in words, your interactions with others and how you move as a whole tells us what’s real and fake about you. We hear your words but communicate with everything else.
In layman's terms, we can sense bullshit from a mile away and we know when a person means well or is full of shit.
If you’ve ever wondered why you can never relate to the masses, sense when someone isn’t genuine before they open their mouth, feel things in depth beyond what you asked for, you may be an empath.
Everyone needs a self-discovery journey. Within yours, I hope that you are able to define and redefine who you are as a person so that you become the best version of yourself.